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pre-wedding

Posted in artifacts, culture, events, fashion, lifestyle, people, religion, tradition with tags , , , , , , on December 29, 2011 by mijodo

Ah love and its many rituals leading to a perfect wedding!

At present, I am not quite sure if a man formally proposing to his girlfriend to become his wife is already part of the Filipino contemporary traditions before marriage.  I know it is big in the USA. The man gets on his knee, and puts on that 2 carat rock on the lady’s finger, and she flashes the ring to everyone who may just witness such expression of love that should end up in matrimony some months later.

But what I do know that Filipino custom of Pamamanhikan is that official declaration to the parents on both sides that an of age man and his girlfriend have settled on a date for church matrimony. Usually the parents of the man would come to the girl’s house to formally ask her parents for her proverbial hand. And if the girl’s parents consent to such proposal, a hearty dinner meal is feasted on to show unity, harmony, and accordance in the blending of basically two families through the coming marriage of two distinct people.

I am not quite sure how the pamamanhikan of Jennifer Casiano and Rigor Soliven had gone, but when I took some pre-nuptial pictures of them, they  intimated the hassles and costs of all the wants and needs for the coming big, successful wedding ceremony at Sto. Domingo Church in Quezon City on December 28, 2011.

In that one December morning, just before the wedding, Jenny and Rigor had to squeeze in their very hectic schedule, the pre-nup photography which probably a decade ago never existed to be part of the numerous steps leading to that church ceremony. For a photographer like me, I am just honored to be doing it for a couple who wants it. But really how important is it to have a set of pictures for a couple, just before getting into a kasal?

The preparation for a wedding can be a big headache for a couple since it entails so much details and possible snags. And of course, where does a couple who only wants to enjoy their actual day of wedding go to?

The phenomenon of a wedding planner has reached not only Metro Manila, but perhaps even in the provinces where wedding preparation used to be a family, or even a community effort – particularly when roasting the pig or bigger yet, a calf.

After finding the right wedding planner, then the  groom and the bride-to- be choos the motif/style/theme for the coming wedding that she dreams of since perhaps she was a child. It can be sleek and chic or it can be grand and fabulous for every guest to remember. The wedding planner gives all the options and suggestions for the couple to decide on, constrained possibly by only the budget.

Will the wedding be in a cathedral or on the beachfront? Will the choir music envelop the whole church? Will flowers abound as the wife marches to the altar? Will the reception be inside a ballroom of a hotel? Will the food be served ala carte or buffet style? Will there be a five-tiered cake or will cupcakes create that whimsy wedding for the couple?

With a hundred or so needs until the wedding and reception are over, the role of the wedding planner has been important for the busy couple who just wants their wedding to be memorable and enjoyable, not only for the guests, but most importantly to the couple themselves.

And I just wish that Jenny and Rigor just had the same fun and excitement planning their wedding, with or without the wedding planner.